When we think of intimacy, the general and conventional reaction is one of touching the heavens, or light falling on darkness or relationships where one or both people are disgruntled and dissatisfied. There is another, more general and light hearted way of thinking about intimacy. Basically, in my opinion, intimacy is about speaking the truth of your experience in a skillful and empowered way that allows the other person to perceive you as someone different from oneself.
The dilemma most people experience has to do with thinking that the person you're wanting to be intimate with is profoundly different and therefore unable to accept the truth of your communication. Allowing for difference in others is not as easy as it sounds, especially if the other is perceived as very different, which is often the case. Basically, intimacy is meant to be easy, satisfying and growth producing. Unfortunately, it is often the basis for great suffering, confusion and pain.
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